Words of a Therapist

Parenting our sons

Anger begets anger. If my child comes to me upset with their friend or significant other, i’m not going to sit there and bad mouth the other person especially a young women knowing the struggles of insecurity and emotions of a woman myself. All you’re encouraging is disrespect. You’re blurring the line between parent and child. You are not friends and you are pushing boundaries.  If I do, I will also ask myself why the hell am I talking about someone half my age? Parents who does this often times want their child to be codependent. They are the parent who goes through phones. They are the parent who gets upset if their child doesn’t discuss every life choice with them. They are the parent who makes excuses when their child does something bad – even if it’s lying, stealing, or cheating. Some women with sons don’t take their relationships seriously. Some go as far as to subconsciously encourage cheating by telling them they prefer them with a different person or even an ex. Frankly, even if someone is treating someone poorly and that person lies or cheats – why on earth, knowing the pain the other person is causing, would you bring even more pain into the relationship?